“And it came to pass… that his master’s wife cast her eyes upon Joseph; and she said, ‘Lie with me’. But he refused, and said… ‘…how then can I do this great wickedness, and sin against God?’ And it came to pass, as she spake to Joseph day by day, that he hearkened not unto her, to lie by her, or to be with her… And she caught him by his garment, saying, ‘Lie with me’: and he left his garment in her hand, and fled, and got him out.”
Gen. 39:7-12
“[Treat] the younger [ladies] as sisters, with all purity.”
1 Tim. 5:2
“For this is the will of God, even your sanctification, that ye should abstain from fornication: That every one of you should know how to possess his vessel in sanctification and honour; Not in the lust of concupiscence, even as the Gentiles which know not God… For God hath not called us unto uncleanness, but unto holiness.”
1 Thess. 4:3-7
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Order of Contents
Articles 2
Collections of Articles 5
Books 8+
Commentaries on Prov. 5 3
For Females 1
For Spouses, Families & Counsellors 6
Media:
Podcasts
Movie
Internet Filters 2
TV & Movie Editors
Online Programs & Communities 2
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Articles
Abercrombie, Ab – ‘Pornography: Addicted or Enslaved?’ (2013) 24 paragraphs at Biblical Counseling Institute (BCI)
Shaw, Mark – ‘5 Mentalities of a Porn ‘Addict” (2015) 20 paragraphs at Biblical Counseling Coalition
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Collections of Articles
‘Overcoming Pornography Helps’ Rev. Phillip G. Kayser
15 very Biblically detailed articles, tables, worksheets, sermons and other resources that will help you conquer besetting sins, especially the “lust of the eyes”.
Articles on Porn at Monergism
Articles on Porn at Christian Library
Christian Counseling & Educational Foundation (CCEF)
Many of the articles and resources one must pay for (but not all).
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Print Books
1700’s
Jenks, Benjamin – The Glorious Victory of Chastity, in Joseph’s Hard Conflict & his Happy Escape (London, 1761) 106 pp. ToC
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2000’s
Struthers, William M. – Wired for Intimacy: How Pornography Hijacks the Male Brain Buy (IVP, 2009)
“…neuroscientist and researcher William Struthers explains how pornography affects the male brain and what we can do about it… viewing pornography changes how the brain works, how we form memories and make attachments… Struthers exposes false assumptions… showing how our sexual longings can actually propel us toward sanctification and holiness in our bodies. With insights for both married and single men alike, this book offers hope for freedom from pornography.”
Challies, Tim – Sexual Detox: A Guide for Guys Who Are Sick of Porn Buy (Cruciform Press, 2010)
Challies is a well-known evangelical pastor in Canada and blogger.
Chamberlain, Mark D. – Confronting Pornography Buy (Deseret Book, 2015) 400 pp.
This “is a collection of chapters and essays from professional counselors and Church leaders, as well as from people who have overcome the addiction. This book is designed to offer help to those individuals caught in pornography’s clutches and hope to all those who love them.”
Chamberlain received his doctorate from Brigham Young University, is a clinical psychologist specializing in the treatment of pornography addiction and other impulse-control problems and his family lives in the Salt Lake City area.
Cahmberlain, Mark D. & A. Dean Byrd – Willpower Is Not Enough: Why We Don’t Succeed at Change Buy (Deseret Book, 2010) 181 pp.
The authors “address the topic of self-control, exploring it in the framework of doctrine and counsel from Church leaders and their own professional experiences.”
Lambert, Heath – Finally Free: Fighting for Purity with the Power of Grace Buy (Zondervan, 2013) 176 pp.
“Lambert, a leader in the biblical counseling movement, lays out eight gospel-centered strategies for overcoming the deceitful lure of pornography.”
“This book is richly biblical, soundly Christian, and centered in the gospel.” – Al Mohler
Croft, Brian – Help! He’s Struggling with Pornography Buy (Shepherd Press, 2014)
Fradd, Matt – The Porn Myth: Exposing the Reality Behind the Fantasy of Pornography Buy (Ignatius Press, 2017)
Fradd is a Romanist layman and apologist, who has published many helpful resources relating to pornography.
“The Porn Myth is a non-religious response to pro-pornography arguments. It draws from the experience of porn performers, recent research from neurology, sociology, and psychology to build a case for why pornography is destructive to individuals, relationships, and society. Matt Fradd provides insightful arguments, including the latest scientific research, on nearly every relevant subject imaginable, exposing the negative impact pornography has on our minds, our relationships, and our culture.
This book addresses the neurological reasons porn is addictive, helps individuals learn how to be free of porn, and offers real help to parents and the spouses of porn users.”
Reju, Deepak – Pornography: Fighting for Purity (31 Day Devotionals for Life) Buy (P&R, 2018) 96 pp.
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A Collection of Recommended Booklets & Books
’25 Biblical Counseling Resources on Pornography, Sexual Sin, & Sexual Purity’ at RPM Ministries
See about RPM Ministries here.
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E-Books
E-Books at CovenantEyes.com
Allied: Fighting Porn with Accountability, Faith & Friends
Your Brain on Porn: 5 Proven Ways Pornography Warps Your Mind & 3 Biblical Ways to Renew It
The Porn Circuit: Understand Your Brain & Break Porn Habits in 90 Days
Porn Stats: 250+ Facts, Quotes & Statistics About Pornography Use
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Commentaries on Prov. 5
1800’s
Lawson, George – Exposition on Prov. 5 (1820) 12 pp.
Bridges, Charles – Exposition on Prov. 5 (1850) 4 pp.
Arnot, William – XXIX. ‘Family Joys’ (Prov. 5:15) & XXX. ‘The Method of Providence for Restraining Evil’ (Prov. 5:21-22) 6 pp. in Laws from Heaven for Life on Earth: Illustrations of the Book of Proverbs (London, 1873)
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For Females
Booklet
Coyle, Rachel – Help! She’s Struggling With Pornography Buy (Shepherd Press, 2016) 64 pp.
This short book is intended for women struggling with personal purity, friends of women struggling with personal purity, counselors, pastors and church ministry teams.
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For Spouses, Parents, Families, Friends, Counsellors & Elders
Booklets
Challies, Tim – Help! My Kids Are Viewing Pornography Buy (Shepherd Press, 2017) 64 pp.
Coyle, Rachel – Help! She’s Struggling With Pornography Buy (Shepherd Press, 2016) 64 pp.
This short book is intended for women struggling with personal purity, friends of women struggling with personal purity, counselors, pastors and church ministry teams.
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Books
Chamberlain, Mark D. & Geoff Steurer – Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity Buy (Shadow Mountain, 2011) 144 pp.
Chamberlain received his doctorate from Brigham Young University, is a clinical psychologist specializing in the treatment of pornography addiction and other impulse-control problems and his family lives in the Salt Lake City area.
Tiede, Vicki – When Your Husband is Addicted to Pornography: Healing Your Wounded Heart Buy (New Growth Press, 2012) 288 pp.
Naukam, Bobi – I Married A Porn Addict: A Story of Restoration Buy (Jabez, 2014) 220 pp.
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Advice
Pastor Michael Foster
An answer over social media to someone asking for advice regarding a pre-teen with a porn addiction:
“1. Tell them that you love them, aren’t ashamed of them, and that this is something that you have had to overcome. Tell them they can do the same.
2. Tell them that porn is bad for them spiritually, physically, and relationally. And then explain how.
3. Tell them that you are going to set up ‘speed bumps’ to help them when they’re tempted but it comes down to their desire to live with integrity. Those speed bumps are:
a. Filters (on devices & internet protocol)
b. Screens only in shared spaces
c. Weekly check-ups: ‘Have you looked at porn of any form this week?’
4. Ask them to identify the a) the times that are most tempted and b) the things that seem to trigger the desire to look at porn.
5. Show them ways to deal with stress that are productive: bible reading, prayer, running, pushups, developing a skill, etc.
6. Remind them again that you love them, porn makes you weak, and living a lie is hell. Let them know that you won’t look down on them if they stumble and they need to let you know so you can conquer together.”
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Podcasts
‘Pornography’ 12 messages at The Institute for Biblical Counseling & Discipleship (CCEF)
Includes material for material for women, wives and counselors.
‘Overcoming Porn Podcast’ 20 messages by Pastor Tae Shin, of the Titus 2 Institute
The Titus 2 Institute website offers a helping online community for a monthly fee.
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Movie
Conquer Series: the Battle Plan for Purity
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Internet Filters & Accountability Systems
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TV & Movie Editors
“I will set no wicked thing before mine eyes.”
Ps. 101:3
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Download the app which filters out bad language, sex and nudity and other objectionable material at your choice, so you and your family can enjoyably watch movies together. It is $8 a month.
“Filter thousands of TV shows and movies.” “Filter entire categories, like Sex, Violence, or Language. Target sub-categories, like the graphic portion of violence. Pinpoint individual filters, such as specific words or certain scenes.”
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Online Based Programs & Communities
“Celebrate Recovery is a Christ-centered, 12 step recovery program for anyone struggling with hurt, pain or addiction of any kind. Celebrate Recovery is a safe place to find community and freedom from the issues that are controlling our life.”
Strive21.com by CovenantEyes.com
“Over 45,000 Men Strong. Join Matt Fradd [see above] and a community of brothers in discovering the keys to living porn-free with the STRIVE: 21-Day Porn Detox.”
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“But I say unto you that whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart. And if thy right eye offend thee, pluck it out, and cast it from thee: for it is profitable for thee that one of thy members should perish, and not that thy whole body should be cast into hell.”
Mt. 5:28-29
“But these [persons are] as natural brute beasts… and shall utterly perish in their own corruption; and shall receive the reward of unrighteousness… having eyes full of adultery, and that cannot cease from sin… they allure through the lusts of the flesh, through much wantonness, those that were clean escaped from them who live in error. While they promise them liberty, they themselves are the servants of corruption: for of whom a man is overcome, of the same is he brought in bondage.”
2 Pet. 2:12-19
“I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me.”
Phil. 4:13
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Related Pages
On the Classifications & Degrees of Sin, & the Distinction Between Venial & Mortal Sin